Email and text messages are the most common forms of communication these days and have really become a part of the fabric of our everyday lives. They are extremely useful tools, particularly in a family law matter involving parties and attorneys. Email and text allow parties to quickly and efficiently discuss settlements or childcare arrangements and can help them avoid the need to discuss these issues in person. Email also helps attorneys communicate quickly and efficiently with their clients, avoiding potentially expensive phone calls, and our office often uses text messages to convey reminders of appointments and court dates as well as to provide billing information.
While both email and text messages are very useful and effective tools, it’s important to be aware of the dangers or pitfalls with such communication. We’ve compiled a list of items to consider to be sure your email and text communication with your spouse remains safe and effective during divorce:
- Emails can be used as evidence in a court hearing. Always re-read your emails before sending them and be sure to never use language that could be potentially incriminating to you or your case, or upsetting to the opposing party. A good rule of thumb is not to use any language or make any remarks in an email or text that you either wouldn’t want your grandmother to read or to hear read out loud in court by the judge.
- Clear communication can make the divorce process much smoother, avoiding unnecessary arguments or misunderstandings. When you send an email, be sure that your message is clear and articulate. The best emails or texts are short, simple and to the point.
- Keep your emails private. If you are considering filing or are currently going through a divorce, make sure you have an email address that only you have access to. Make sure that you at least change your password for an existing account, or better yet, set up a new email account that you can dedicate just to communications regarding your case particularly the communications between you and your attorney about the case.
- Save everything. Documenting emails between yourself and your soon-to-be-ex may become important in the evidence-gathering stage of your divorce. Keep your emails saved and organized well so that you may refer back to them easily if need be.
While communicating during a divorce matter can be complicated and overwhelming, we’re here to help. Get started today and contact the attorneys at OWENS & PERKINS by clicking here or by calling our office at 480.630.2464 to schedule your FREE 30 minute consultation.